I think I should be in control of who is allowed to add/remove me to/from their friends list and it is not paranoia, it happens, frequently. It is not that I am hiding anything it is just a way for a trouble maker to stir trouble for you when you get online. Most places that have friends list allow you to say Yes allow this person to add me as a friend or No deny and hide me from them. Rather than giving any nut out there control A hidden feature would be nice as well. Nice suggestion BBW!