Babe68:I am not an expert in all those vacation/time for move/time for game issues ... but you are right it has to change ... I was once playing chess on another site, than quit playing my games, came back to the same site after several months and my time was still ticking and the other guy was (at least I think so) waiting for my move ...  it's idiotic ... I am playing now backgammon and my opponent moves every second day ...
my question is ... what is the pleasure of playing such a dynamic game for weeks or months ?
I understand it's turn based site but common, 30 days should be absolute maximum for a game ...
after 30 days it should be over ... if you are traveling constantly and have no time to make 1 move in a week than please do not join a game ... start collecting stamps or something ... they can wait ...
Andy.

ChessVariant:sorry to interfere .. my suggestion is to do as i do now ..
i sign ONLY for tourneis with no vacation allowed, tourney with the fisher clock or with 2 or 3 days max per move
i have tourney on from 3 yrs ago ......pple dont move quick so i had to change the way to play
only fast tourneis including pond