Oye vey. "and being the behind the back ridicule of other players" .. seems to me that says more about you than it does me.

Get a grip folks. If you've nothing to do with your time other than play games, then get a life. You don't like to wait, play more games so you won't notice. Or, as was suggested, try a real-time game site.

Don't whine for the removal of limits that don't suit -you-, just don't join those games/tournaments. Control your own games, don't try to control everyone else's.