playBunny: That's what different time limits are for. If you sign up for a "7 days per move" game, then complain that people are taking 7 days per move, you shouldn't have signed up for them in the first place. Why is that hard to understand?

The site allows all possibilities for people to sign up for time limits they are comfortable with (with vacation days to cover for any unseen emergencies, so you can sign up for short time limits without fear of losing games if you get sick or the like).

I'm getting sick and tired of all this constant whining of people who sign up for time limits they don't like and then complain when people aren't playing fast enough for their liking. You had that choice when signing up! Thinking people should have to give up their very busy lives to indulge you in some silly game seems quite arrogant and disrespecful to me.

heavenrose: i just want him in peace is all

I've just consulted a medium and he said that dien will suffer eternal unrest if he doesn't get to hear people's last thoughts and to know how he touched their lives.

Carpe Diem: Playing within the rules is a terribly poor excuse; it completely disrespects the spirit of play. Many of the offenders will never, ever, understand how much game hoarding reduces the enjoyment of so many other players. It is a serious problem. If this were my site then it would be one of the first things that I would seek to change.

Carpe Diem: Yes, you’re right, we can’t say anything if the player plays at the limit but within the rules. I had noticed you were a fast player : last time, it’s true, we were the 1st to finish our game. I must admit I prefer to play rapidly because I remember my game. When a player makes a move once a week, it’s difficult to remember what you planned to play. Of course, you can note it but it’s not the same. But I say this although sometimes I can’t play for several days because I’m very busy with my job.

crosseyed: Yes, you’re right : each player is not available in the same way : if he works or not, if he’s away sometimes, etc ... Everyone is different.

Carnie: Yeah, that's the key - it's on us to decide what games, and time limits, to play. I've been on both ends of this. A few years ago I went crazy signing up for tournaments and ended up with well over a thousand games running and had a VERY hard time keeping up. Games were going to their limit all the time, and I used up most of my vacation days. Not something I'd have done on purpose, and I could see how some might find it frustrating, but at the same time, I was playing within the limits. Just gotta know that there will be some people who use up the full time allotted, so you have to allow for that when signing up. These days it's rare a game goes a day without a response from me, and games I'm in are often the first done in tournaments. But I don't begrudge those who make a game go on what seems like forever, as they're playing within the rules. 

beach: Yeah, that happened to me recently; I considered sending them a message to ask what they were doing, but in the end decided I couldn't be bothered. Player had a number of <1000 ratings, so it obviously isn't the first time.

Mélusine: I find that three days can be restricting for me. As I could be ill or be away and then might timeout on some games.

beach: Yes I had that happen to me two days ago. They resigned all the games I had with them. Some of the games had not been started. It is beyond me too?

Carnie: Now, I never join a tournament with more than 3 days per move.

beach: Yes, I agree with you. No interest in it.

I can never figure out why someone signs up for lots  tournaments makes 1 or 2 moves then resigns them all

heavenrose: yes we will, thanks

Mélusine: Well put Mel.

heavenrose: . No one knows if by remembering someone who has died is not letting them rest in peace. I am sure dien is at peace now. I think what has shocked us is that he was so young. Also he was popular and a very good player. Most people like to show their respect for him by posting a message.

heavenrose: I don't understand why you think people avoid him to be in piece only because they are saying goodbye and sharing their good memories. Everyone has the right to say goodbye as far it is respectful, or why do you think it's negative ?

Bernice: Yes, you’re right, to ignore someone is not respectful. As in games when we say hello and we wish good luck and some players never answer, not a smiley, not the minimum hi gl. It’s the same : to ignore the opponent isn’t respectful. People concerned will recognize themselves...

Mélusine: it is only RESPECT from his fellow players...I didnt know either of the deceased, but send condolences to both families....Heavonrose, if it was you or anyone in your family you might get the same respect...

heavenrose: I see what you mean but he was a very good player, look at his profile and you’ll see he was number one in several games and this is exceptional. We just wanted to recognize his value as player. Sincere thoughts for him and his family.

moistfinger: Yes I agree with you.

heavenrose: Let people remember him and respect him in the way they feel fit.

s3v3n: Tragic news, we played backgammon a few times, lovely guy. He wasn't very old, gone too soon :(

Hrqls: No one makes anyone leave because they claim they are being bullied. They choose to leave it is their own choice. Also you cannot always believe what someone tells you on the internet.

s3v3n: :-( he was a very good line (connect4 and connect6) player as well ... my favourite opponent, had some great games with him, and a very friendly player

my condolences tg everyone who knew him, and strength to his family

cd power: I did not know awesome. And again very sad.

s3v3n: it was mentioned on the missing people discussion board the other day. Very sad.

Coincidentally, I just received notice yesterday that “awesome” passed away of a heart attack on August 24. He mostly played loop chess here. RIP awesome and dein

I'm very sorry to inform brainking community that my good friend and your fellow player - dein - has passed last week. A great pente, gomoku and renju player, one of the best that Poland ever had, suffered heart attack and unfortunately it wasnt possible to save him :( His games won't be finished..:(

Carnie:Well, I can "hear you" now, as when I look at the game record it does indeed now show that you timed out and lost, in spite of you having made the last move. Very odd. I'd suggest sending Fencer another message.

Carpe Diem: I see Carnie won the game and the opponent timed out
which shows that it wasn't Carnies turn but the opponents. so the game history was right :-)

Carnie congrats on your win

about the bully subject you addressed aside : i don't see much bullying lately .. and if it does please let me (or another mod) know and we will take care of it

people are not leaving this site because of bullies (afaik) but because the site isn't managed anymore .. the owner (Fencer) has stated that he doesn't have time for it anymore and has other priorities. He is kind enough to let the site running so we can still play though

Carnie: I'm confused by "I thought people left this place because of bullies but I see the owner doesn't care." - were there some posts deleted? I sure didn't see anyone bullying you, but maybe you're referring to something else.